Ever since my daughter started Middle School she will not tell me anything about school! When I ask her how she did on tests or how it’s going with friends all I get is one word answers. Any suggestions?
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Ever since my daughter started Middle School she will not tell me anything about school! When I ask her how she did on tests or how it’s going with friends all I get is one word answers. Any suggestions?
Lisa @ School Family writes: Hi Sibby-
I think Jillian is right - most teens go through the same thing... not that this makes it any easier when you just want to have a normal conversation with your tween or teen! Here's an article that you might find helpful. It focuses on how to get kids to open up about school and then gives tips by age group on how to communicate with your kids. http://www.schoolfamily.com/school-family-articles/article/733-have-a-conversation-about-school
OK parents of tweens & teens, lets hear your tips!
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Mom2BK writes: I am a middle school teacher and I hope you find comfort in the fact that your daughter keeps good company – I’d say this is true of most middle schoolers. With that said, there are ways to get this age group to open up. Timing and approach is everything. When your daughter gets home from school she probably just wants to decompress, so don’t bombard her with questions then. When she’s had time to relax and refuel , then try asking her open-ended questions about things that you think they’ll be excited to talk about. For example, if they like science, ask if they are doing any interesting experiments this week. Steer clear of only asking about grades and test scores.
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demidoggy writes: I try to spend some time with my boys doing something they like to do, like shooting hoops, tossing the baseball or even playing some video games. I find that I can often sneak in some conversation while we are playing. I also try and get someone to join me while I walk our dogs - we start talking about the dogs and often end up talking about other stuff too! Perhaps there is an activity that you can share with your child, like going to the gym or taking a class?
