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At a social event my daughter's 2nd grade friend told her, 'I wish you would kill yourself'. My daughter smartly told all the parents while at the social event. The other girls mother was embarressed, horrified, sadden and truely concerned about her daughter's behavior. She apologized several times, made her daughter apologized also. Now what? I praise my daughter for telling the adults. Do I try to encourage play time with the two girls? What now? Do I tell the girl's teacher, so she has a heads up?




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At a social event my daughter's 2nd grade friend told her, "I wish you would kill yourself". My daughter smartly told all the parents while at the social event. The other girls mother was embarressed, horrified, sadden and truely concerned about her daughter's behavior. She apologized several times, made her daughter apologized also. Now what? I praise my daughter for telling the adults. Do I try to encourage play time with the two girls? What now? Do I tell the girl's teacher, so she has a heads up?


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Annie_Fox writes:
You've rightly let your daughter know that she did the right thing by telling adults about this threatening language. You might also explain to your daughter that sometimes every one of us (kids & adults) feels so angry/jealous that we (all) say things we do not mean. I see no reason to demonize the child nor to prevent your daughter from playing with her AS LONG AS there is no repeat of this kind of language nor any sign that this girl is treating your daughter disrespectfully. If you're worried about your daughter's safety, you needn't be. The little girl wasn't speaking about a real intention to harm your daughter, so don't worry! But the girl was feeling something and she was repeating a phrase that she had heard. If I were her parent, I absolutely would explore those feelings and find out the source of that phrase. But that doesn't have anything to do with you and should not be the topic of gossip. I hope this helps. In friendship, Annie Fox
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marlaina hosek writes:
yes of corse if somone did that to me i would be very mad and o would tell the princable that a kid is bolling my son or doughtor so yah thats about t for noe but yes yes 100 times yes tell the teacher and tell her to keep an eye on the bolly so if sompthing happens my son or doughtor dont come home crying every day so tell the teacher prinsable annyone just tell on the bolly i get bolled all the time and i feel very bad that that happens so tell well byyy i got to go soo for now byy and im only 9 years old well by tell next time byyyyyyyy.
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mani p20 writes:
you should give the gils teacher a heads up about whats going on and maybe she can talk to the girl.also tell your daughter that if the girl keepa telling her stuff like that to not be around her and give the teacher a heads up on that too.luv.
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