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Parents want to know the best way to help their children with homework. While there are many Homework Helper Dos and Donts, three rules top the list. The following rules not only help students do tonights homework, they help foster future independent learning. Our goal is independent and self-m...

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Top Three Rules for Helping Your Kids with Homework

Posted by: Angela Norton Tyler on Aug 31, 2009 in Parent Involvement, Homework, Helicopter Parents


Angela Norton Tyler
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Parents want to know the best way to help their children with homework. While there are many Homework Helper Dos and Don'ts, three rules top the list. The following rules not only help students do tonight's homework, they help foster future independent learning. Our goal is independent and self-motivated students, isn't it? Right!

  1. Insist that your child- not you- read all directions. Do NOT do this for them. Reading the directions is crucial skill, and you want your child to establish this habit as early as possible. As both a teacher and a parent, I have been amazed at how often a child cries, “I don’t get it!” then reads the directions and says, “Oh! I get it!”
  2. Give your child some space. By this I mean: Do NOT sit right next to your child while he does his homework. “But, what if he needs me!” you’re wailing. Here’s the thing. If your child does not understand something, and you are two inches away, he’ll ask you to explain or solve it. If, however, you are in another room, he might try to figure it out himself. (Remember, we trying to raise independent learners!) While sitting next to your child makes you feel needed, the fact is you won’t always be able to do it. Be accessible, but show your child that you believe that he is capable of completing his own homework and solving most problems.
  3. Establish a routine and then stick to it. Homework right after school? After dinner? In the morning? Figure out what works best for your child’s Homework Personality, set up your schedule to support it, and move on. It’s like brushing teeth. Would you engage in a Big Debate if your daughter woke up and, “I don’t want to brush my teeth this morning. Can I brush them after school?” Of course you wouldn’t! Certain chores and activities take place at certain times of the day. End of story. Save the pleading and negotiating for something worthwhile- like another bowl of ice cream.

Stick to your guns and follow these three homework helper rules. You will be doing yourself and, more importantly, your children, a huge favor.

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  1. Posted by - Becca on Dec. 02, 2009

    Great post!

    It's definitely important to get these habits started early on. Kids will be much better off in middle and high school if they already have great study habits in place.
  2. Posted by - Roberta Schneider on Sep. 16, 2009

    These are great suggestions for keeping organized. I am going to forward these to the members of CHADD; an ADHD education and support network.
  3. Posted by - Joanna on Sep. 09, 2009

    Great article with great advice that I will be implementing and sticking to for my own sanity!!!
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    Posted by atyler on Sep. 03, 2009

    Thanks, Kerry!
  5. Posted by - Kerry Dickinson on Sep. 02, 2009

    Angela, I always like your ideas. Please keep up the good work.

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