This a weekor two old, but the Obamas made time recently to attend the parent-teacher conferences for their daughters. Love the fact that they went, obviously.  Why wouldn’t they, right?  Not like they’re busy or anything.

Laughing thinking about the actual conference:

“Well, mom and dad, your daughter has been fairly tired in class.  Last week, she apparently was on national TV at midnight or something.  Maybe we could work on those bedtimes a bit.  And while her state geography has improved dramatically, she tells me she can’t do any more oral reports without a teleprompter and that I should check with her press people for the proper spin on the next report card.  I’m not sure where she is getting these ideas.  Your attention to these matters will be appreciated.”

Here’s to a president with school-aged kids (and all the time challenges that go along with same). Should be interesting to watch how a 21st century president and First Lady handle the school apsects of their new life.

That’s the intriguing question posed by Lisa Belkin over at the NYTimes moterlode page.

From where I sit, the answer is clearly “yes”, but I think it’s probably the wrong question.  Better to ask if parents can be too involved in helping their kids have school success, and then i think the answer is:  “Not if that involvement is done right”.

Rare is the school that has to turn away parent volunteers and where teachers wished parents would be less connected.  And parent involvement done right includes just the kind of balance and systematic loosening of the reins that Lisa is looking for.  Moreover, involvement is a lot more than attending meetings and school events (though I love those for their involvement benefits and their community-building elements); involvement also includes appropriate partnering on homework and school progress and making sure your child has the support he or she needs to flourish in his or her own way.

Our feature on the value of getting involvement right is a key part of this site’s DNA.  We also have a good quiz to determine if you are a classic “Helicopter Parent“.  

(Note: the comments on the NYTImes site make for an interesting read, too, including a healthy, heated discussion about cultural and ethnic differences around involvement.)

I’m sure you’ve heard that our schools are failing us, that international students kick our kids’ fannies on tests, and that we’ll all be working for the Chinese and Indians in just a few years, right?  Those assertions have always troubled me, as they just don’t seem to fit with the fact that our country is still leading innovation and taking care of much of the world financially.

Finally, though, there’s some sanity in the discussion. While I do know that there is plenty we can do better in our schools, Jay Matthews — the best education columnist on the beat — adds a much-needed dose of facts and reality to the discussion. His conclusion?  The sky is not falling on our schools.  I agree.

Key points from the piece:

• If you’re going to compare test scores, helpful if kids taking the tests are same age or taking test after same prep.
• If you’re going to compare career paths, helpful to check if “engineer” means same thing in both countries.
• If one country (the US) aims for the most part to keep all of its students in traditional high schools and another siphons off (early) many of its lesser academic stars straight to career-training (and doesn’t test those students), then do you have an apples-to-apples comparison on testing?

In the end it comes down to how you and your school are doing with your child?  Is he or she challenged? Are you connecting and getting involved and keeping things on a good track? Or you encouraging life-long learning?  That’s what this site is all about, and it’s importnat that we don’t let doom-and-gloomers tell us that we can’t do it well. Thanks Jay!

Little blurb here about the value of actually saying “no” once in a while to our kids.  It’s apparently part of a wider program in Minnesota called: “Say Yes to No.”  Interesting.

I felt like the spirit of the linked anecdote captured our goals with the site pretty well.  We’re about helping parents be good school parents — how to do that, why to do that, community among other parents taking on the same challenge.  We’re not about being super-parents or raising the most amazing — get them their college scholarshoip before they’re 12 — kids ever.  Just about trying to do things right, while maintaining some sanity and balance.  And having some fun.  I do believe that saying “No” at the right times and with consistency is part of that mix. 

Off my soapbox now.  Funny — I’m off to one of the toughest nights of the year to say NO — Halloween. Boo!

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