Hi Lisa, thank you for responding so quickly...I appreciate that! I'm glad you pointed out to me that showing my daughter how I am always worried about her, would actually cause her to second-guess her decisions. Thanks for the advice and the article. It was very helpful.
So thrilled to have you join our community and conversations. Your daughter sounds like a great kid. Middle school is a tough time -- they are figuring out who they are. You have to give her credit for being selective. And yet, I understand your worry because it's so hard NOT to worry as a parent, isn't it? The trick is not to let them know you are always worrying because then it undermines their resolve and confidence. Encouraging kids to participate in activities and find their passion is a great way to build their self-esteem. Here's an article that you might find useful:
Hi Lisa, thank you for requesting me. I'm a young single parent (27) of a middle schooler (6th Grade). My daughter, Tabitha is a great kid...she's an honor student and vice president of her schools student government. She's very selective with the friends she chooses and I appreciate that. But, she lacks a bit of confidence in social settings and is very quiet. I feel bad for her because I have observed that she tends to be a loner. Alot of the kids in school, reach out to her but she is sooo selective that she keeps them at arms length. I worry ALOT! She was diagnosed with ADHD when she was in the 3rd grade and sought treatment for her and myself for 2 years. I thought she navigated pretty well and learned some skills but I just don't know, there is a fear in her that I see. She's unsure if the kids would like her. Can you offer any advice on how I can help her build her confidence and self-esteem. For a year now, she has developed an interest in Emo/Scene characters (default pic). "Emo" means "emotional" and that sort of scares me. Maybe I'm just over-reacting because it wasn't too long ago that I was a teenager myself and I know I don't want her to make the mistakes I've made. But anyways, thank you for allowing me to join your group and I promise to post alot of positive comments! ; )