Simply asking her to do stuff: clear her plate, get in the car on her own, choose her clothes, find library books that need to be returned. I find just asking her to do stuff like that, over time it just becomes a habit and she always does them.
Like this discussion. One thing I have read is that in order to raise responsible kids you need to let them make choices. That is something I am trying to do in the new year. That ties in with Libby's hat chore idea - kids get to figure out what it the best time for them to fit in their chores. I love it. Another area I am trying to make my kids more responsible is time management. I am tired of nagging my older 2 pick up the pace for school or to get to their activities. They know how to tell time and i want them to take on more in terms of being ready on time - anyone have any suggestions on ways to do that?
Libby - My kids are very similar in age to yours. I tried a chore chart but honestly I was the one who didn't keep up with updating it. Now we use a hat system. We have 3 boxes with age appropriate chores for each child - once a week they pick 3 chores ranging from vaccuming to taking out the trash. The need to get them done by Sunday afternooon. If they don't they lose tv & computer priveleges for the next week. Works well for our family. IN addition to the hat chores everyone helps clean up the kitchen after meals and picks up their own stuff around the house.
Shayna - Like the hat system idea because it works for all ages!
Libby- Here are 2 articles about chores that you might find helpful:
http://www.schoolfamily.com/school-family-articles/category/439-character-development ... Also, here's a whole slew of articles that fall into the character development/raising responsible kids category:
I am in the process of creating a chore chart for my kids ages 4, 6 & 10. I am wondering what others do to have their kids help around the house. I'd like to come up with some things that are also kind of learning activities if possible. Any suggestions?