Should preschools require kids to be potty-trained?

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#40 Mary 2015-11-02 21:13
I am a frostergrand parent I have seen the teacher take time from teaching to clean up a child that just will not use the pottey. In her words that what the teacher is for. So she was told at home. That is not what teachers are for. Parents need to do their jobs or start paying the teacher for that servers. I would be so embarrassed if it was my child, that ever day the teacher send home a bag of clothes. I am not talking about special needs kids. They go out to try a be like other kids.
#39 Angela 2015-07-09 21:12
If your child is starting preschool or even kindergarten and is not potty-trained, it is not the responsibility of the teacher or nurse to change them. I am not talking about children with learning or medical disorders - that is a completely different situation. I think it your child is 2 and has never been on the toilet, you are setting yourself and them up for failure. It is becoming a huge problem. Children have been learning to use the toilet forever. This is not a new thing to figure out. Children were trained on average by 18 months before disposable diapers came about in the US. They are still trained on average about that time around the world. However, the US is around 3-4 years of age now. What is that saying? Parents are becoming lazy and not wanting to put the effort in to take their child to the toilet? They rely too much on the convenience of disposables? They fall into the nonsense of "wait until they are ready" (most likely funded by diaper companies? It is pretty much common sense that if you wait until your child is 2 or closer to 3 to start teaching them to go on the toilet, they will be stubborn and fight you more often than not. Some children at that age might easily catch on and use the toilet, but refusing to poop on the toilet at 3, 4, and 5 years old is becoming a big problem with people who are delaying training.
Teachers are there to teach our children academics, not basic skills that children of normal intelligence should be learning around 1-2 years of age. I would not want my child to miss out on educational opportunities because his pre-school teacher is changing a diaper or potty training one of the classmates. It is ridiculous. Everyone is paying tuition for preschool (if it isn't public) so other children shouldn't lose education time because other parents are not willing to train their children to use the toilet at a reasonable age. Toilet train your children. Have some discipline and consistency. Even if a child is in day-care, it is not the day-care providers responsibility to train your child, it is the parents'. The day-care provider should help, but the parent should be teaching them at home with help from the day-care. Not the other way around....and this is day-care, not preschool or public school.
#38 Jane 2015-06-04 01:56
Wow! It is so easy to criticize when you haven't been on this mother's position. I am a mother of 2 autistic children, my oldest was potty trained by the age of 4, my little one is 6 years old and we are still working on him getting potty trained. Yes it takes effort and discipline, but if the child is not ready, he/she will not be potty train by the likes of no one. He will do it when he feels ready. For those of you that got you children potty trainned by 3 GREAT! But don't put down the moms that have the gift of having special children. They are precious, smart and talented. What they lack on potty training most of you people lack in humility, and heart. Every child is different, and they learn at different rate
#37 Bethany 2015-05-18 20:05
This topic is very interesting despite some of the discouraging and rather sad comments posted. My child is three and half and she is not potty trained. Contrary to what some people may assume, it is not due to a lack of discipline or laziness. We started trying with her at 20 months and we continue to daily. For my daughter it is a SENSORY issue. My child like many others in America today has high functioning Autism. She is extremely bright. In the inclusion program that she is in, she is excelling beyond her peers. She has even helped some of her peers learn sight words as she is already reading at a second grade level! Its great when kids can learn from each other as well. Should she be excluded from a school because she has to wear pull-ups? Perhaps her seeing her peers use the potty, may help her learn to use the potty, Just as she helps her peers learn colors and shapes, etc. It seems a little pre-historic is such an time of knowledge and innovation to expect such a generalized rule to fit so many little precious INDIVIDUALS. The AVERAGE age for a child to be potty trained is 3, but that is an AVERAGE. Some do it before and some do it after. That is why these milestones are a RANGE of months. In fact, primary enuresis should not be diagnosed before the age of FIVE!!! I am so fortunate that my child goes to a school with such dedicated and compassionate teachers and administrators who see beyond checklists to be met by a certain age. That is why they include ALL children. They are willing to go the extra mile for the full development of EACH child. They amaze me because they are sometimes understaffed and I have never heard a teacher or anyone complain once!! It helps when a teacher loves what they are doing and are properly trained in various aspects of child development. So for all the other parents like myself who are lumped in the category of "lazy or undisciplined", be encouraged. Keep trying with your child and keep talking to your pediatrician. If a school is so rigid that they worry solely about ONE milestone, then maybe that school is not worthy of your little one.
#36 Jacqueline Marchetti 2015-05-01 00:01
It is an interesting subject-one that seems to be occurring more and more in the school system. As mother of 5-all my children were potty-trained by before 2. My last two little boys were tough, but we got through it. I think potty training is just the parent disciplining themselves to develop a bowel and bladder program for thier children. Teachers should NEVER have to potty train kids. They have too many other kids which they are trying to teach and deal with in the school system. This is NOT THEIR JOB. Parents need to take responsibility with their children they wanted to have and get it done.
#35 Lisa 2015-04-22 20:49
Like anything, it really depends on the program and the environment. Also keep in mind that different programs even in the same area may be licensed differently and have to follow different regulations. If one preschool is not able to accept students who aren't fully potty trained, they may be able to recommend another nearby school that has this capability. Because of the staffing, it may cost a little more, but not always. Personally, I didn't mind changing diapers in preschool, when we were set up for it. Because of the facility layout of my new school, there is no way that we would have the ability to change diapers and still meet licensing regulations.
#34 Romero 2015-04-17 01:00
Wow the news was not kidding when the said parents were getting lazy. You expect too much from caregivers and don't pay that much. Train your children is your responsibility. Teachers should not have to be changing your children they have other children to teach.
#33 Tori B. 2014-12-03 04:02
To all the teachers and others firmly stating that toddlers SHOULD be potty trained in order to attend preschool:

How exactly do you set such expectations? No parent can FORCE a child to use the toilet - especially if they're uncomfortable with doing do.

Also keep in mind that, as a parent myself, I pay the daycare to CARE for my child during the DAY so that I can work TO pay you. Therefore, whether that means teaching my son calculus or wiping his dirty behind, I EXPECT that he be CARED for. If you think it's okay to leave a child in his own filth simply because it is an inconvenience to take 4.5 minutes to slip on a new pull-up, you should not be working with children whatsoever. You're basically telling both the child and his/her parents that the child has a choice between learning or wearing a diaper/pull-up. That's not fair to anyone!

Additionally, single moms such as myself do not always have the financial ability to take the suggested time off work in order to dedicate it to potty-training instead. So if you, as the teacher, or even the institution as a whole, expects to receive continuous payment, why would you bother threatening OR executing the expulsion of children?

The thought of anyone supporting this disgusts me.
#32 Elizabeth 2014-11-27 04:39
This makes me a bit mad.... I'm both a preschool teacher and a mother of two and, both are not potty trained but are still in preschool; and no they don't attend the same school I teach. One of my children (Anna) who is currently struggling potty training and just turned four years old may still not be ready for the potty (no, nothing is wrong with her in anyway) and, my other child (Emily) who is three and a half does not show signs of being ready for the potty either. I think it's completely unfair to judge a parent or their child. If I need to change a diaper, I'm more than willing to do so regardless of their age. It is their child, they can choose to potty train them whenever they would like to do so. At the preschool that I teach at, a child is required to be in diapers if they have more than two accidents a week, once again, regardless of age.
#31 maya 2014-08-17 01:39
some of you are acting as if diaper changing isn't a big deal, part of the teacher's job, one person said deal with it and move on but like many others have said, you're ignoring the simple fact that the teacher is too busy to deal with it and move on. preschool teachers are not babysitters or daycare teachers, we are preschool teachers--- circle time, numbers, letters, activities, crafts. If 7 kids are in smocks and painting and suddenly a little one has a dirty diaper, uh yikes! not all preschools have assistants in the classroom and if they do, the assistant is likely making sure to assist the little ones in the preschool activities.

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