But are they clear to her? Parents and students have busy days. Fitting in important conversations can be hard.

One idea is to have a weekly family meeting. Here, you can share what you expect. You can talk about progress your middle schooler is making. And she can say what she thinks.

You’ll want to have everyone’s attention. So keep things short. About half an hour works well.

Family meetings should also be pleasant. Sunday evenings, with dessert, might be a good time. Each family member should feel relaxed. That’s the best way to share thoughts, feelings and goals. Talk about goals for each person and for the family.

Family meetings are also for sharing important family information. They aren’t intended for punishing, yelling or criticizing. For example, your middle schooler could talk about a school event that’s coming up.

Parents can make sure everyone sticks to the rules.

Ask your middle schooler to write down important points that come up during the meeting. These include progress, new goals and agreements. Writing things down will also help to reinforce your expectations in her mind.

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