They have a “can do” attitude, and don’t give up when something doesn’t come easily.
How can you tell if your teen has a healthy sense of self? It’s not easy, say experts. You just can’t assume that a quiet and shy child has low self-esteem. Nor should you assume the outgoing child has high self-esteem.
“There’s more to it than that,” says child development counselor Bettie Youngs. Children, she says, have greater self-esteem when they are:
- Willing to participate. They eagerly join teams and groups.
- Willing to share. They enjoy talking about their interests.
- Open to advice. They don’t view advice as criticism.
- Comfortable when alone. They like their own company.
- Want to achieve.They love the challenge of learning.
Here are some ways parents can build their children’s self-esteem:
- When your teen brings home a school assignment, talk about questions he got right.
- When you watch your child in an athletic event, tell him you’re proud to see him trying.
- Let your teen overhear you saying nice things about him to a friend or neighbor.
- Teach your child to have a “success mind-set.” If your teen fails, find something that can be learned from the mistake.
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