That’s why it’s important to teach children not only how to be friendly, but also how to resolve disputes.
Ask your child the following questions when problems arise:
• “What happened?” Understanding the facts can help you assist your child. Tell your child, “If you explain it to me, maybe I can help.”
• “How does the other child feel?” This is a good question for older children, who may be able to imagine others’ feelings. But toddlers may have trouble with this.
• “How do you feel?” Let your child explain how the problem has affected him.
• “How do you think you can solve this problem so that no one is angry?” If your child comes up with a good plan, say something like, “OK, try that.” If not, suggest that he think of another idea.
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