This is true when it comes to violence.

Violent children usually come from violent homes. Their parents model violence as a way to resolve conflict. Or as a way to manage stress.

Even children who aren’t hit suffer when they witness violence. They don’t bond well with others. They have low self-esteem. They have nightmares. They withdraw or become aggressive.

Studies also show exposure to violence affects a child’s ability to learn.

Children must learn to control their impulses. They must develop empathy and learn to communicate.

To help prevent children from becoming violent, parents should:

• Give children constant love and attention. Children need consistency to feel safe and secure.

• Ensure children are guided and supervised. Activities should stress how to interact with others.

• Discuss problems with children. Show peaceful ways to find solutions.

• Never hit children. This tells children it’s okay to hit others to solve problems.

• Be consistent in their discipline. Clearly explain rules. Let children experience the consequences for not following them.

• Teach about the dangers of guns. Never keep guns where children can get them.

• Limit children’s viewing of violence on TV and in other media. Explain how painful violence really is.

• Teach personal safety—what to do if anyone tries to hurt them.

• Be connected with their communities. Work with others to make them safe.

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