It will help her become responsible.

A recent study concluded that children who have learned responsibility and autonomy are better adjusted. They make friends more easily and do better in school. Autonomous kindergartners end up having higher scores on reading tests.

To help your child develop these traits:

• Assign your child regular chores. Tasks such as taking out the trash, feeding a pet or setting the table are appropriate. Show her how to do these chores first, and help her the first few times.
• Keep expectations realistic. Try to see things from your child’s point-of-view. A 5-year-old cannot make complex decisions or handle responsibilities that require more than a few steps.
• Give your child choices. Within limits, let her decide what book you’ll read to her, what clothes she wears, and what game or chore she would prefer.
• Explain why you want your child to do something she’s resisting. For example, it’s important to pick up her clothes to keep them clean and neat.
• Don’t bribe. Avoid saying “If you pick up your toys, I’ll take you out for ice cream.” Children may perceive this as controlling. It doesn’t promote social adjustment or academic achievement.

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