Louis, Missouri, knows that what parents say to

children makes a difference in how they feel about themselves. Here are her suggestions for building self-esteem:

• Use words to show your affection for your child. Don’t expect her to figure out that you love her—tell her!

• Use courtesy with your children. Do you want them to say “please” and “thank you”? Try using these words yourself.

• Listen to your child talk about one of his interests.

• Don’t use your child’s name as a substitute for the word “no.” We’ve all done it—but it links the most personal part of your child’s identity with disapproval from you.

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