Kids enjoy sports and can learn a lot from them, including the four “ships” —friendship, citizenship, sportsmanship and leadership.

When children play sports, they have a “golden opportunity” to develop a positive self-image. But, this won’t happen if parents don’t do their part. Here are some ideas to help build your child’s self-esteem on and off the playing field:

• Keep it positive. When you find something to criticize, find four other things to praise.
• Instill humor. Help kids laugh at their mistakes.
• Develop team spirit. Help your child think “we,” not “me.”
• Step into your child’s shoes. See the sport through his eyes. Listen and understand his feelings and wants.
• Involve yourself. Volunteer. Ask your child questions. Help her practice at home.
• Notice any and all progress—in both skill and effort.
• Show excitement. Praise enthusiastically in public.
• Praise specifics. Don’t say: “Mary, you’re a good sport.” Say: “I liked the way you shook hands after the game.”
• Offer a good example. Be a good sport yourself.
• Remember to have fun. Fun—not winning—is what’s most important to children.
• Set reasonable expectations. Don’t underestimate what your child can do, or pressure him to do what he can’t.

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