parents go overboard. “Janie’s mom praises her for breathing,” one fifth grader observed.
Teaching our children self-respect doesn’t mean complimenting them for everything they do. Children also need honest criticism from time to time.
When parents criticize, of course, it should focus on things children do, not them personally. (“You left a lot of leaves in the corners of the yard,” rather than, “You’re always lazy.”)
In the end, doing a good job builds self-confidence. Help your children do their best, whether they’re doing schoolwork or chores. That will also help them grow into confident, responsible adults.
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