Kids sometimes tell lies.
And dealing with lies requires parents to react carefully.
Sometimes our behavior as parents actually encourages lying. There's really no need to ask, "Who broke the vase?" if the only ones in the room were your child and the dog. Instead, you ask, "How did the vase break?" and you talk about how your child can repair or replace it.
But some lies are not so easy. If you suspect your child is not telling the truth, you should probably not accuse him of being a liar. Instead, you might say something like, "I'd really like to believe you, but it's hard for me to believe you're telling the truth." And then you wait, giving your child the chance to straighten things out.
When kids do tell the truth, they may confess to something that requires parental discipline. Your job is to let them know they're being disciplined for the deed, and not for telling the truth. In fact, if you can reduce the punishment a little, you'll teach that honesty really is the best policy.
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