They may strike out at other children—or even at adults.
Help your child learn how to control anger before it becomes a problem. Here’s how:
Suppose your child comes home and yells in an angry voice, “The teacher was so mean to me today. I’m never going back to school.”
Don’t respond in anger. (“Stop talking like that.”) Don’t try to fix it. (“Here’s what you need to do.”) Instead, let your child know you are listening. “It sounds like you are really angry about that.”
Then set clear limits. “I want to listen to you, but I can’t listen when you’re angry. Come back when you can talk calmly and I will give you all the time you need.”
For some children, that may be all it takes. But other kids may be so angry that they can’t calm down. If your child won’t leave the room, then you must leave.
When you listen to your child as he speaks calmly, you are showing him how to calm himself. You are also being a great model for how to deal with angry feelings in a positive way.
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