But if children reach the age of seven or eight and are still telling a lot of lies, it’s time for parents to take some action.
If your child has told you a lie, try first to think about what might have caused the child to lie. Children do engage in wishful thinking. Start from the assumption that your child probably meant well.
Don’t corner your child, and try not to overreact. But on the other hand, let your child know you know the truth. As calmly as you can, talk with your child about the consequences of not telling the truth.
“Michael, when you tell me you’ve done your homework and then I find out you didn’t, it makes me wonder whether I can trust you the next time. I want to be able to trust you more than I want you to do your homework.”
Finally, don’t give your child many chances to lie. If you see spilled milk on the floor and ask, “Who spilled the milk?” you can almost expect that your child will answer, “I didn’t.” If you ask, “How did the milk spill?” you’re likely to get a straight answer.
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