That's why it's so important for parents to let children learn to make choices.

When your child was young, you probably gave her choices about what to wear. You decided that it was too cold for shorts, but you let your child choose between the red pants and the blue jeans.

You decided she needed milk with her lunch, but you let her choose between yogurt and a glass of milk.

The same technique works with older children. Here are some examples:

• Choosing which vegetable the family will eat for dinner. (You decide there will be a vegetable, but your child chooses between salad and green beans.)
• Choosing whether to do homework right after school or after dinner.
• Choosing whether to play soccer or basketball.

As often as possible, try to let your child make choices within the limits you have set. Say things like, "You decide," or "I'm sure you can make that choice."

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