But report card time can also be an anxious time for parents and children. Kids may worry that they aren't living up to your expectations. You may feel at fault if your child's grades have slipped.

You can use the report card as a positive learning experience. The secret is to remember the 3 P's: preparation, perspective, and positive action.

Preparation. Just before report cards are due, talk with your child. Ask "What do you think your report card will tell us?" Then let your child tell you if he expects any problems. Even if your child does well in school, she may be nervous about a certain grade. Getting ready is helpful.

Perspective. A report card is just one small measure of your child's achievement. There have been other report cards in the past. There will be more in the future. A child who gets all A’s still has plenty to learn. And a child with poor grades still has plenty of strengths.

Positive action. Think of the report card as a chance to take positive action. Find something to praise: attendance, attitude, improvement. Then focus on areas that can lead to improvement. Ask how you can help. You may want to set a regular time each day to review spelling words. Or you may agree to turn off the TV during study hour. You may decide to schedule a conference with a teacher.

Not every child is a straight A student. But the report card offers an excellent opportunity for both you and your child to learn together.

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