And they need to know their contributions are appreciated.
Here’s how to help your teen feel connected and confident:
- Thank your teen for things she does to help the household run smoother, such as doing an errand or baby-sitting a sibling. Mention how her work helped you or the family. “I finished my report while you played with Sarah. It’s such a load off my mind. Thank you.”
- Whatever you’re planning—a purchase, a party, a weekend trip—ask your teen what she thinks. You’ll probably get some good advice.
- If your teen makes a mistake, let her figure out how to fix it.
- Communicate confidence. Tell your teen, “I believe in you.” Or, “You can do it.”
- Look at more than results. Your teen’s first try at cooking for the whole family might not produce a gourmet meal. Point out the effort it took. And talk with her about what she learned for the next time.
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