As a parent, your role is to support your child. Here are some ways you can help:
Remember whose decision it is. Your teen, not you, will enroll in the college. So it’s important that teens, not parents, have the biggest part in choosing the school.
Of course you have a role. You may tell your teen, for example, that you can contribute a certain amount to college costs. Anything above that would have to come from scholarships, loans or jobs.
Help your teen clarify what’s important. You’ve always wanted your teen to go to State U. But what if she wants to go to another college or take a year off before starting school? Hard as it is, you need to give your teen a chance to stand on her own two feet.
Help your teen learn to trust her instincts. “I just knew that one college wasn’t right for me,” says a college freshman. “I couldn’t put it into words exactly, but I knew.” That same teen also got a good feeling when she visited another school.
Although her parents would have preferred the first school, they let her make the choice. “She made the right decision,” they now agree.
Let your teen do most of the work. Applying for college is a lot of work. But so is going to college. If you do all the work of applying, are you also planning to come to school to write term papers? Back off and let your teen take the responsibility.
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