They compare themselves to others. And, in their minds, they always seem inferior.

They get in the habit of focusing on their weaknesses. This further undermines their self-confidence. Then their grades suffer even more.

To stop this downward spiral, parents can help kids see themselves more positively and believe in their strengths.

To help your child do this, brainstorm his strengths. For each strength:

• Describe the strength. “I loved hearing you sing that song. You have a great voice.”
• Recount past successes. “Remember when you were selected for the musical?”
• Describe the effect the strength has on others. “Your friends still talk about your performance.”
• Express your feelings about the strength. “I’ve always admired people who can sing like you.”
• Photograph the strength. “I found this picture of you singing. I framed it because it reminds me of what a great singer you are.”
• Let your child overhear your praise. “He is truly blessed with a great talent.”
• Give opportunities to show the strength. “Would you consider singing for the folks at the retirement home?”

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