We often assume children know we love them. But experts say children need parents to tell them and show them their love in very specific ways.

Adolescents especially need reassurance of their parents’ love. This Valentine’s Day and beyond, make sure your child hears your “I love you” message loud and clear.

Here are some other ways to give it:

• Say, “I love you!”
• Drop what you are doing when your child wants to talk. Listen non-judgmentally.
• Make a date. Set aside time when just you and your child do something together.
• Say, “I’m so glad you’re my child.”
• Send “fan mail.” Write your child a note, poem or silly riddle—saying why you think she’s so special.
• Speak up. Compliment your child on something that he either has tried or done.
• Talk about love. Ask your child, “What are the best ways a parent can show love to a middle schooler?” Then listen.
• Patiently help your child find a solution to a problem.
• Give your child a hug.
• Teach your child a new skill or hobby.

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