Your preteen might act nonchalantly toward you. But what you think about him matters a lot to him.
To feel good about himself, he needs your encouragement, acceptance and approval.
Make sure you take time this summer to show your child a little encouragement. Try some of these things:
- Thank your child.
- Ask for his opinion.
- Say, “I agree.”
- Give a hug.
- Give a pat on the back.
- Listen and repeat what he says.
- Give your child a challenge, saying you know he can do it.
- Be really interested in what your child does.
- Spend time together.
- Laugh at your child’s stories and jokes.
- Refrain from criticizing.
- Ask for your child’s help.
- Ask how you can help.
- Note how your child is unique and special.
- Say when you’re impressed.
- Let your child overhear you bragging about one of his accomplishments.
- Trust your child.
- Let him make decisions.
- Mention small efforts.
- Don’t bring up past problems.
- Remember successes.
- Accept your child as he is.
- Tell your child, “We all make mistakes.”
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