Think back to your middle school days. You probably remember the names, or at least the faces, of the “popular” kids.

Today, popularity is just as important to kids as it was in the past. And when a child feels unpopular, it’s painful. Here are some ways you can help:

• Be supportive. Talk with your child about her feelings. Reassure her that she’s worthy of friendship, and that she has a lot to offer. You might also remind her of her strengths, such as kindness and a sense of humor.
• Build friendship skills. Talk with your child about ways to make friends, such as introducing herself or sharing. If your child does something that seems to hurt friendships, gently bring it up. For example, “I bet Amy would like it if you listened to her suggestions more often.”
• Encourage friendships. Suggest that your child invite one or more children to your home that she likes. Also, see if her teacher can seat her near potential friends or group them together for projects.

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