They’re

afraid they won’t be able to do it, so they avoid it altogether.

Parents can make a big difference by using praise. Try these suggestions:

• Be positive. Instead of saying, “You’re lazy,” say, “English can be hard. But I think you can do it. Let’s work on it together.”

• Praise consistently. Whenever your child works hard, reward him with praise. Remember to praise effort as much as success.

• Make compliments specific. For example, “You started your homework on time. I’m proud of you!” Or “You didn’t give up on that problem. Good job!”

• Communicate non-verbally. Sometimes reinforce your compliments with a hug or a pat on the back.

• Let your child overhear praise. Say to someone else, “Emily did her homework today without any reminders. She worked really hard on it for an hour. Isn’t that great?” Then have that person compliment your child: “Mom says you worked really hard on your homework today. I’m impressed.”

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