But not too involved.

Parents who are too involved:

• Hover over their child as he works.

• Get upset at mistakes their child makes.

• Do the work when their child can’t.

• Believe their child’s success or failure confirms their success or failure as a parent.

Being too involved sends kids harmful messages like, “I don’t think you’re capable of doing this.”

Such messages make kids feel guilty and incompetent. And being over-involved keeps kids dependent on you. They come to believe they can’t do the work without you.

To ensure you’re involved

appropriately:

• Provide a private place for your child to study.

• Be less of a participant and more of a consultant to your child.

• Make your interventions brief—a few minutes.

• Suggest your child get help from the teacher.

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