This sounds very much like a friend of mine and now that their son is 15, he wont do anything but sit in front of the computer! However I have tried to point out to them that they are his role models and they have never done anything together as a family as Dad also plays computer games for hours every day and Mum reads or watches videos on her computer. So I'd say start with looking at what he sees you doing - if you dont do extra-curricular activities yourself, he wont see the point. Try planning a family weekend where you put everything aside for a weekend and spend the time together - the big thing to do though is to get him to plan the weekend. Give him a budget and let him go for it. Other friends of mine have done this one weekend a month for years - their two kids did the planning - often there was a very small budget as thats all they could afford, but they had a ball. If I rang my friend up and asked her to do something that weekend she would always say "Sorry that's our family weekend'. I really respected them for that. The two kids have grown into loving, well-adjusted adults.