My son just finished his first quarter in middle school. We have the same issues with disorganization and even a few bad grades. Sometimes he just wouldn't do homework. Anyway he surprised me with how well he did adjusting to changing classess and teachers throughout the day. He really likes the extra, temporary stimulation and the differences in the enviornments has been enjoyable for him. As far as the organizational issue, I was terrified as well. They want each kid to have a binder, notebook and folder all color coded for each class. I knew there was no way he would be able to do this, I was right! I eventually got him one of those brown accordian style folders and all of his teachers said it made a difference. They had him get rid of the binders and his notebooks and sheets fit in the labelled slots. I thought the teachers would be objectional about this but they were not at all. Afterall the style they had developed was to try to help kids stay organized and that was their main goal. If something else works better for your child they should be all for it. Just a thought. S.G.
just stay calm and ask him things that are important. i was in the same position as you. you get just as stressed out as theem, so think about what would be best for him. simply,buy the essential things for starting middle school then you will slowly find yourself doing everything yourself. trust me ti works.