I am not sure if she went to preschool, but if she didn't it may just take some time for her to get into what is the routine while at school. I am also a first time at this and my son also in kindergarten has sort of the same problem, he will sometimes not do a task but because he does not understand it and will just sit there. He has slowly been getting better at getting involved and following directions. This may be the same for your daughter. Also, talking to her on a daily basis (but without disciplining her) since this is all new and like you said we dont want them to hate school.