My granddaugter just started school and there is a boy at the school that is missing part of his arm, from the elbow down. It upsetst her so bad that she won't eat lunch and whenever you mention school, her mind quickly goes to him and she starts to get fretfull. Any suggestions? Yes, we have explained that he is different and why, he was born that way. But this doesn't seem to help. This is only the third week of school and we need to help her. We have talked and explained that he is just different but this difference scares her. Help!
awmsrocks writes: just tell her it is ok to feel that way and just tell her to try not to get upset to just make friends with him
gabbymom1707 writes: I'm not sure if this approach would work well with your granddaughter, but my son is 5 and at that age children seem to have quite a bit of empathy. Try asking her if she was different in some way (use an example that would most likely not upset her), if she would be sad that another child was affraid of her? There was an albino child in my son's preschool and although my son didn't get upset or affraid like that, he did avoid him quite a bit and seem uneasy around him. I used this approach and it seemed to work (slowly).