my daughter is 10yrs old n is not doing well in school she gets plenty of help in school but know shes talking back ignoring me rolling her eyes and she really make me get very angry i have spanked her n talked to her i just dont know what to do anymore........
amontoya12 writes: I think there is something or multiple things that may he causing this...anything from problems at home, school or learning particular thingsl. It's hard to say because I dont know if she has any family problems...but spanking her is definately not the way to get through to her. Try to really talk to her without getting angry or scolding her to find out the reason for her behavior. I really feel that when we give our children the confidence to tell us anything and that we will be there to support them they know they can come to you with any problems they have. I went thru something similiar when I was 15 with my mom...I had a boyfriend she did not like and I felt like she was always against me. We went to therapy to talk about what was bothering me and I brought up things from when I was a little girl that happened that she did not even know about and I never told her until then because I felt like she was not going to believe me or understand. Again, really listen to your daughter..be a parent but a friend at the same time.
icc2012mom writes: I think it's very important to build trust between you and your daughter. Once trust is built, she will not be scared to let you know what is bothering her. Showing kids your anger can also push them away from opening up to you. So stay calm and patient and always reinforce that you care about her and let her know that whatever affects her also affects you.
Also, it's important to know who your daughter is friends with in school. She is young an can easily be influenced by her peers. Make sure she doesn't spend too much time with other boys and girls that don;t like school or have bad attitudes towards their parents. Good luck
kayann writes: This has to be a stage for young girls, my 10 year old daughter is going through the same thing. I sit her down at least 3 times a week just me and her, I ask her about her day at school, I want details. If she rolls the eyes I show her what she is doing, but I let her no it's ok to voice her opion, but to think first, and be ready for others opions, with talking to her she gets to tell me whats on her mind, and I can tell her whats on mine....