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Can We Postpone The Holiday Hustle and Bustle?

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A few years ago, my husband’s office holiday party was postponed ’till January because they simply couldn’t find a Friday night to host it. However, that party was quite possibly the best (better late than never) holiday party I’ve ever been to! We laughed and snorted just as hard at the white elephant gifts, which were still wrapped in red and gold paper with sparkly bows and candy canes—just as if it’d been December. And we definitely enjoyed the evening together sans kid and without the stress of two other events the same night!


It got me thinking …


What if we could postpone some of the crazy, umpteen, school holiday events? If we did, would I get laughed out of the PTO? Would my Facebook page light up with criticisms and Bah Humbugs? Or would I get extra eggnog at the next parent-teacher conference?!


I’m being serious. Think about it. Would it be so terrible to have a band concert the last week of January? Half the time there are only a few Christmas songs on the playlist, and it’s been renamed the Winter Concert as it is. I don’t know about you, but we get more snow in February than December anyway!


Imagine if the piano and dance recitals, the band and choir concerts, or even the 2nd grade school play were delayed until January? You know what that would do? It would allow my family to concentrate on OUR holiday in a way that focuses on FAMILY TIME.


I’ll volunteer to host the ugly sweater party in February! Cookie exchanges? Oh honey, I’m game for cookies year-round!


Why do we insist on heaping numerous activities and parties into 2 or 3 short weeks in December? Maybe the answer is in picking and choosing and letting the things slide that aren’t high on your family’s priority list, and then making an even bigger deal of the events that mean the most to you and yours.


For my family that holiday priority list would include the occasions where my whole family is involved. Things like church Christmas parties—where the teenager is involved with wrapping little kid gifts, the younger kids sing Christmas carols, and my husband cooks up 14 hams. Another tradition I wouldn’t postpone are our Monday family service nights where we bake up treats and deliver them secretly to neighbors, (they always know it’s us, and we can’t figure out how!). Extended family gatherings will always be high on our list as well as several other community—and yes, school—holiday events.


I’m not suggesting we postpone EVERY holiday event…but there must be way to make the holidays less chaotic, because December in my world is crazy right now!


What usually-held-in-December event would you postpone for a month or two?


#29 Daddy Mojo 2011-12-19 00:40
I would postpone some of those school plays. In theory it's neat to have them in December, but there are so many other things happening it takes away from the enjoyment of going to them.
#28 Brypkema 2011-12-17 15:23
My class at church has basically put a ban on any type of Christmas party. We decided years ago to have a "Valentines" party instead. So, each year in late January/early February we try to get together. Sitters are easier to find, schedules aren't as packed... and honestly, one year, we didn't get around to the party until Labor Day weekend. Everyone still enjoyed it, no matter the time and we aren't all as stressed with everything else!
#27 @TimeOutMom 2011-12-17 05:57
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. It is filled with family and friends. It has great food. We focus on that we are thankful for and it is not all about the preents frenzy. Next year, I am hosting Christmas and get ready 'cause this mama is going to do it different!
#26 Dawn Sandomeno 2011-12-16 17:38
I have been saying this for years ! I'm in let's start a movement.
#25 Carissa 2011-12-15 17:02
Yes Leticia.. seems like there could be a lot of this spread out.
The several recitals and concerts get my vote, ballet and piano is great in January too right?? :-)
#24 Leticia- Tech Savvy Mama 2011-12-15 15:52
I think that there's so much going on that there's nothing wrong with spreading the cheer into January. Why not make a holiday party into a celebrate the new year party later in January to beat the winter doldrums or pick a totally different time of year? It gives everyone something else to look forward to after the holidays are gone and helps alleviate packed schedules and holiday stress!
#23 Crissy Herron 2011-12-15 02:45
I agree. January is so boring and dull. Once Christmas is over, the boredom of winter sets in... We need to add something to spice it up.
#22 Carissa 2011-12-15 00:51
And Theresa I didn't think about the 'marital' stresses.. :-) Good luck with that!
#21 Carissa 2011-12-15 00:50
Happy Birthday Maricris!!

One of my kiddos bday is on Christmas eve, and honestly the crazy is sort of over by then and we really enjoy her birthday!
#20 Maricris of Zensible Mama 2011-12-15 00:44
I have learned that prioritizing only the events that the entire family can take part of have saved so many holiday stresses. Including my birthday which is 3 days before Christmas!

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