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How should my 11 year old daughter handle a friend that has no other friends, follows her everywhere and talks bad about me (mom)? My daughter feels bad because she has no other friends but at the same time she is sick of her always following her.




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How should my 11 year old daughter handle a friend that has no other friends, follows her everywhere and talks bad about me (mom)? My daughter feels bad because she has no other friends but at the same time she is sick of her always following her.


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Lisa @ School Family writes:
That's a tough one. Agree with cfindley that your daughter should not tolerate her talking badly about you. Would recommend that you give your daughter some suggested words to use like, "It's not ok to say bad things about my mom and when you do it makes me not want to be around you." I would suggest sending an email to the girl's teacher or school counselor and giving them a heads up to the situation. It sounds like she is struggling socially. Hopefully, they can help her out. A lot of schools have friendship clubs for kids like this.
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liligirl writes:
She needs to be honest and tell her to stop following her and stop talking bad about others she really doesnt appreciate it. Maybe se will get the picture
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cfindley writes:
Your daughter should make it clear, in not uncertain terms, that she will not tolerate anyone who talks badly about her mother. Also, she should not feel uncomfortable about letting someone know that she's not interested in such a close friendship.
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