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Hi parents, I am a mother of 3 children. My concerns are my two sons, the eldest one is 13 years old and the youngest is 11 years old. They never got any good grades. My youngest son has a language problem, so I do not really expect him to get really good grades, but I still encourage him, he will study if someone helps him. My main concern if my 13 year old son. I know that he is not stupid he has a very good brain if he uses it. I tried everything but they do not to have any interest in learning, I always go on about how much studying is important etc. I approached to them in a friendly, angry and sad manner, but nothing seems to help. I even punished them not to go outside or to the park for weeks. I made a routine, I always show them the TV programs that show the poor children across the world, to make them realise how fortunate they are that they have everything and the best opportunity to make something out of themselves. I always encourage them and think positive and never give up. You would not believe how much lectures I give to them every week. I lost count of how many times I told them to study. It is not only that, but they only are interested in playing, I took all their toys away put them they make figures out of paper and cut them out and play. Had any of you parents got the same problem? How did you resolve it? Have you got any tips? I am not trying enough? I am really tired of keeping telling them what to do and when to do something. He is a lovely young boy, very kind and generous. The only problem is that he does not study. I only want him to study because it is good for his own future. Also I cannot help him out with his homework, because I do not speak English. How did I write this? I used a translator hahaha. I could not do well in school either since there was war in my country, this causes me a lot of pain since I do not know much and cannot work, and therefore I do not want my children to get to this situation. I apologize for the long post. Thank you for reading.




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Hi parents, I am a mother of 3 children. My concerns are my two sons, the eldest one is 13 years old and the youngest is 11 years old. They never got any good grades. My youngest son has a language problem, so I do not really expect him to get really good grades, but I still encourage him, he will study if someone helps him. My main concern if my 13 year old son. I know that he is not stupid he has a very good brain if he uses it. I tried everything but they do not to have any interest in learning, I always go on about how much studying is important etc. I approached to them in a friendly, angry and sad manner, but nothing seems to help. I even punished them not to go outside or to the park for weeks. I made a routine, I always show them the TV programs that show the poor children across the world, to make them realise how fortunate they are that they have everything and the best opportunity to make something out of themselves. I always encourage them and think positive and never give up. You would not believe how much lectures I give to them every week. I lost count of how many times I told them to study. It is not only that, but they only are interested in playing, I took all their toys away put them they make figures out of paper and cut them out and play. Had any of you parents got the same problem? How did you resolve it? Have you got any tips? I am not trying enough? I am really tired of keeping telling them what to do and when to do something. He is a lovely young boy, very kind and generous. The only problem is that he does not study. I only want him to study because it is good for his own future. Also I cannot help him out with his homework, because I do not speak English. How did I write this? I used a translator hahaha. I could not do well in school either since there was war in my country, this causes me a lot of pain since I do not know much and cannot work, and therefore I do not want my children to get to this situation. I apologize for the long post. Thank you for reading.


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icc2012mom writes:
I really feel bad for you because I am sure you are frustrated. We all want our kids to be the best and hope they have a good future. I would suggest having a talk with the school councelor. Councelors usually have better ways approaching teenagers and sometimes kids need to here reality from someone other than a parent. Good Luck and stay encouraging him as much as you can.
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kayann writes:
Ask your sons one on one what the want to do when the are grown up and on their own? Like my youngest wants to be a vet assistant. So we looked up what is needed in education and what the could look forward to making and what that would get them in life. Then we looked up jobs that needed no education (and they are getting harder to find.) and what the could look forward to income and what they would have. This showed them that you do need an education and good grades. Also there was always homework came first then everything else they learned that doing work right the first time gave them more time for play. Hope this helps. :)
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