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Expert Sue Scheff Offers Parents 10 Tips to Help Prevent Teen Drug Addiction

Posted by: SchoolFamily on Mar 22, 2012 in Teenagers, Teen Girls, Teen Boys, SchoolFamily.com, Parenting, Middle School, High School


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Sue Scheff is an author, a parent advocate, and the founder of the Parents' Universal Resource Expert (P.U.R.E.). Scheff helps families with at-risk teens, and specializes in educating parents on the daunting industry of teen help and how to find safe and quality residential therapy programs—at a time when parents are at their wit's end.

 Parenting a teen in today's society is not an easy task. Communication with your teenager is key to his success on many levels; however, as a mother who raised two teenagers, I know it is easier said than done. Drug and alcohol use among teens is an issue parents need to be aware of. There are many good kids making some very bad choices. 

A common misconception among parents is thinking that a teen is only smoking marijuana as a phase. Marijuana and the substitutes for it, such as “spice,” are more risky and dangerous than what was available in years/generations prior. These drugs can be laced with higher levels of PCP, which can literally alter the mind of your teen and cause brain damage.

Drug use (substance abuse) is a serious cry for help, and making your teen feel ashamed or embarrassed can make the problem worse. Here are some common behavioral changes you may notice if your teenager is abusing drugs and alcohol:

  • Violent outbursts, rage, or disrespectful behavior
  • Poor or dropping grades
  • Unexplained weight loss or gain
  • Skin abrasions or needle track marks
  • Missing curfews, running away, truancy
  • Bloodshot eyes, distinctive “skunky” odor on clothing and skin
  • Missing jewelry, money
  • New friends
  • Depression, apathy, withdrawal, and generally disengaged from the family
  • Reckless behavior

My 10 tips to help prevent substance abuse:

 1. Communication is the key to prevention. Whenever an opportunity to talk about the risks of drinking and driving or the dangers of using drugs presents itself, take it and start a conversation.

2. Have a conversation not a confrontation. If you suspect your teen is using drugs, talk to her. Don't judge her; instead, talk to her about facts behind the dangers of substance abuse. If your teen isn't opening up to you, be sure you find an adolescent therapist who can help. 

3. Addict in the family. Do you have an addict in your family? Sadly many families have been affected by someone who has allowed drugs to take over his or her life. With this, it is a reminder to your teen that you want him to have a bright future filled with happiness. The last thing you want for them is to end up like [name of addicted relative].

4. Don't be a parent in denial. There is no teenager who is immune to drug abuse. No matter how smart your teen is, or athletic she is, she’s at risk if she starts using. I firmly believe that keeping your teen constructively busy, whether through sports, music or other hobbies, will put her at less risk to want to experiment. However don't be in the dark thinking that because your teen is pulling a 4.0 GPA and is on the varsity football team that he couldn't be dragged down by peer pressure. Go back to my number one tip—talk, talk, talk. Remind your teen how proud you are of him, and let him know that you’re always available if he’s being pressured to do or try something he don't want to.

5. Do you even know what your teen is saying? Listen, or watch on text messages or emails, for code words for medicaiton being abused or specific drug activity: skittling; tussing; skittles; robo-tripping; red devils; velvet; triple C; C-C-C-; and robotard are just some of the names kids use for cough and cold medication abuse. Weed; pot; ganja; mary jane; grass; chronic; buds; blunt; hootch; jive stick; ace; spliff; skunk; smoke; dubie; flower; and zig zag are all slang for marijuana.

6. Leftovers. Are there empty medicine bottles or wrappers in your teen’s room or car (if they own one)? Does she have burn marks on her clothes or her bedroom rug, and ashes or a general stench in her room or car? Be sure to check all pockets, garbage cans, cars, closets, and under beds, etc., for empty wrappers and other evidence of drug use. Where do you keep your prescription drugs?  Have you counted them lately? Teens and tweens often ingest several pills at once or smash them so that all of the drug’s affect is released at once.

7. Body language. Tune into changes in your teen’s behavior. Are his peer groups changing? Is he altering his physical appearance or suddenly lack hygiene? Are his eating and/or sleeping patterns changing? Does he display a hostile, uncooperative, or defiant attitude, and is he sneaking out of the house? Are you missing money or other valuables from your home?

8. Access to alcohol. Look around your home—are alcoholic beverages (liquor, beer, or wine) easily accessible? Teens typically admit that getting alcohol is easy, and that the easiest place to get it is in their own homes. Be aware of what you have in the house and if you suspect your teen is drinking, lock it up! Talk to them about the risks of drinking, especially if they are driving. 

9. Seal the deal. Have your teen sign a contract stating that she promises never to drink and drive. The organization Students Against Destructive Decisions (formerly known as Students Against Drunk Driving), www.saddonline.com provides a free online contract you can download. It may help her pause just the second she needs, to not get behind that wheel.

10. Set the example, be the example. What many parents don't realize is that they are the leading role model for their teen. If your teen sees you smoking or drinking frequently, what is the message you are sending? At the same time, many adults enjoy a glass of wine or other alcoholic beverage, and the teen needs to understand that they are adults and there’s a reason the legal drinking age is 21.

A very important piece of advice I share on a daily basis, which I learned the hard way, is that you have to be a parent first, even if it means your teen hates you. The hate is temporary. Your teen’s future, health, and safety depend on your parenting. Friendship will come later—and it does!

Editor's note: For additional information on signs of drug abuse in your child, read What Parents Should Know About the Danger Signals of Drug Abuse at SchoolFamily.com.

 

Scheff’s organization, Parents' Universal Resource Experts (P.U.R.E.), offers information for parents on residential treatment schools and programs for children and teens. Scheff’s book, Wit's End! Advice and Resources for Saving Your Out-of-Control Teen, outlines how to locate safe and quality schools and drug-treatment programs, and details Scheff’s personal story of finding help for her teen daughter. Follow her on Facebook at facebook.com/TroubledTeensHelp, and on Twitter at twitter.com/#!/suescheff.

 

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  1. Posted by - Clark M.D. on May. 08, 2012

    Teenagers have always encountered difficulties when it pertains to avoiding and overcoming substance abuse. Treating adolescents must definitely be done very carefully as several teenagers may be influenced in different ways. This is because of exactly how the teenagers are still growing and developing physically, which could be harmed if they are abusing substances like prescription drugs. For adolescents, it is essential to produce the correct kind of drug avoidance methods in order to aid them in the very best means feasible.

    In order to produce an effective approach, it is essential to recognize exactly what the teenager is going through. Every teenager and his or her issues are one-of-a-kind, which in turn calls for an one-of-a-kind drug method. For example, one teenager may have a Xanax addiction while one more has a methamphetamine addiction. Each abuser will certainly call for particular help in order to exceed any type of abuse they is presently doing. In addition, the teenager that is having to deal with substance abuse or the family members of the teenager might even have questions concerning the treatment procedure.

    Examining the teenager is just the initial step in treatment. In addition, it is vital to take the preliminary evaluation and to match the teenager by having the most reliable treatment readily available from a drug treatment center. As soon as this has actually been done, a technique might be taken which greatest fits the demands of a teen which might consist of communication from the teenager's school, his or her loved one and pals, and oversight by the justice system. Loved one participation in particular is sought after as it offers the teenager's by having a sense of loved one participation and that the family members cares. In some examples, treatment has actually been shown to enhance when a household is entailed.

    If a family members locates a teenager has actually come to be addicted to a substance, it is necessary to bring this to the attention of people that can easily assist. In some examples, adolescents could pull away if the family members faces him or her and as a result the very best technique is to generate qualified support that can easily do an intervention if important. If a loved one has any type of questions concerning the treatment procedure, it is best to locate these out before you start, particularly if it will definitely entail the teen staying at a facility for some time till they is completed treatment. In addition, this could aid to quell any sort of concerns the teenager has over just what they might undergo while at the facility.

    Abusing substances like Xanax will definitely disrupt and perhaps ruin a teenager's development procedure. It is important the teen register his or her self into an ideal facility which can easily deliver the correct technique in assisting the teenager. Although abusing substances might have actually altered the teenager's life, it does not need to ruin the others of his or her life, specifically if the teenager and family members act rapidly enough to start looking for the best drug treatment approach. In time by having the ideal program, the teenager could have actually broken the hold of substance abuse and have a long and healthy and balanced life to expect.
  2. Posted by - Teen Help on Apr. 03, 2012

    This post as helped me and my troubled teen. I have been looking for teen help and advice for my son and this was great information that I'll apply to helping him. Thanks so much!
  3. Posted by - Cathy | Treatment Talk on Mar. 30, 2012

    Hi Sue,

    Thank you so much for the valuable information. Your post will help many families dealing with teen drug addiction. Appreciate you sharing the tips for parents.

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