To set positive expectations:

• Make sure what you expect is within your child’s abilities. If you set expectations either too high or too low, your child may do poorly.

• Let your child know what you expect of him. Make a list of expectations. Cover places and situations—home, school, homework, shopping, etc.

• Be consistent. Don’t lower your expectations because you feel guilty for being away from home. Don’t raise them because you’ve had a rough day.

• Avoid labeling your child. Statements like, “You’ll be a failure unless you get good grades” can make your child feel like he’s already failed. Instead, focus on what your child has achieved.

• Give your child the ways and means to meet expectations. Provide a well-lit study space and school supplies.

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