Kids that bully others are in pain themselves. They use aggressive behavior to cover up their shortcomings. And their future isn’t bright. One in four children who bully have a criminal record before they’re 30.

To help put an end to bullying, here are some things parents can do:

• Watch for symptoms that your child is being bullied. These include withdrawal, a drop in grades, torn clothes, and needing extra money or supplies.

• Listen to your child. Encourage her to talk about school and other kids. Ask about the walk or ride to and from school.

• Show your child how to protect himself. Practice walking with confidence. Role-play how to stand up for yourself verbally.

• If your child complains about another child, dig deeper. Children are often embarrassed or afraid to say they’re being bullied. When probed, a seemingly minor complaint might reveal a more severe problem.

• If your child is being bullied, tell the school. Teachers can take steps to ensure your child’s safety.

• Get together with other parents. Ensure that children in your neighborhood are supervised going to and from school and during after-school time.

• Don’t be a bully yourself. Don’t yell, tease, or hit children.

• Teach your child the social skills she needs to make friends.

• Praise your child when he’s kind toward others.

• If your child is a bully, get help. Talk to a teacher, counselor, or child psychologist. Your child might be acting out feelings of insecurity, anger, or loneliness.

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