It could be an argument with a friend, rejection from a boy she likes, a bad grade on a test, or not being chosen for a school activity.

For times like these, it’s helpful if your teen has some “esteem boosters”—things to make her remember she’s not really so bad.

Here are a few ideas:

• Ask your teen to write down her good qualities. She should include qualities that others like about her, too.
• Encourage your teen to display cards and gifts from friends. Re-reading cards or letters from good friends can remind her that plenty of people like her.
• Encourage her to do something good for herself. It could be going for a run, reading a book or seeing a movie with a friend.
• Give her a sincere compliment. Don’t let her brush it off.
• Ask her to surprise someone else with a thoughtful gesture. She could take cookies to a new mom or an elderly neighbor. Delighting another person is always a good way to feel better about yourself.

These tips are a good way to help a teen who feels down once in awhile. If your teen is always sad and down on herself, it could be a sign of depression. Seek help from a teacher or doctor.

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