They worry about making friends and what to wear. They stress over homework and grades. Without help, middle school students can worry themselves sick.

To help a child better cope with her worries:

• Listen to your child. Determine what concerns her the most.

• Help your child identify what she can control, and what she can’t. She can’t control her height, for instance. But she can set a goal to improve a grade.

• Help your child get organized. See that she has a quiet study area and academic planner. Show her how to schedule her time and file school papers.

• Ask questions that help your child solve problems. “What steps can you take?” “What might you do differently?”

• Put things in perspective. Help your child focus on what’s good, not just on what’s wrong. Talk about worries you have overcome.

• Help your child stay healthy. See that she eats well and gets plenty of rest and exercise.

• Follow your instincts. If your child seems overstressed, talk to her teachers. Get counseling, tutoring or other needed help.

• Keep an eye out for issues that affect middle schoolers. Ask your librarian for helpful books.
  

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